Ever imagined a world where we are not able to communicate?
But isn’t that same as what we are facing today?
Have we wondered why?
Biggest joy for a parent is when their child say the first words. Things are so simple during childhood. A child is probably the most clear communicator in today’s world. Says what he wants, asks what he wants & is always to the point & truthful. This continues till he is exposed to the wicked world.
The word communicate brings in many feelings in a person. For some it is as simple as passing on a message, for a boss it is assigning a task, for some it is merely gossip and so on……
But have we realized that when we communicate, how often is it to the point? Do we have the habit of beating around the bush, going round in circles and saying everything but the main thing that has to be said?
Why is it, that a lot of times we see people who belong to a lower stratum of society, or having a weaker personality, stutter and stammer, or are unambiguous when they communicate with anyone, presumed to be better placed than them, thereby not being able to convey the correct message.
Are they interested in protecting themselves by not wanting to say the wrong thing or are they simply brow nosing?
Does ‘to a point communication’ really depend on your upbringing or your social status in a society?
Does a individual’s love for sycophancy make him eventually lose out?
It’s often believed that if everyone ended up speaking their mind, it will create rifts in the society, causing untold problems to a number of people. But eventually, the truth has the inconvenient habit of revealing itself. Wouldn’t that then cause more embarrassment & problems? Does it not make sense to be upfront and honest right at the start? It’s again the same as I’ve said in my last article – short term foresight vs long term foresight ( STv/sLT)
An individual who is open and truthful and speaks his mind, starts getting identified among his colleagues as a straight rod. He then creates an identity for himself and soon people begin looking towards him in trying times, to come up with a rational view rather than a sycophant reply. The pressure and expectations on such people is immense and at times, on short term basis, they tend to lose & there is always a temptation to bend. But then in today’s world you have very few such type of personalities.
The biggest challenge for such people is to retain their individuality which is very very important for an individuals growth in the long term. A bent person will always benefit in the short term, but very soon his views are discarded and eventually he’ll lose out. (STv/sLT)
Many a times we see ice cold relations due to a total break down in communications between the affected parties. Nothing can be more damaging. Not communicating is more toxic than maintaining some semblance of communication whatever the relation, as during such times rumor mills tend to take over & cause havoc. Keeping the lines of communication open and clear can help eliminate the misunderstandings and help establish a healthy level of trust between individuals.
Countries often open Embassies across other countries around the globe. One of the major reasons for this, apart from pushing trade & commerce, is to always to keep the channel communication open.
A strong country will always feel the need to go to war. But is that the solution?
No! take a pragmatic approach and let things fall in place.
One needs not impact the course of history from some qualitative job. Keep channels of communication open even between enemies. Many a battles have been avoided by doing the same.
Take the classic example of Israel.
After World War 2 the next big war was coming up in the middle east
Israel having suffered pogrom at the hands of the Nazis, were facing another threat to their existence from the Egyptians in the 1960s. The entire Middle East wanted to throw the Jews out of Israel & were preparing for war. The Israelis at that time were not a big force as they are today so the fear of annihilation was always there.
The Egyptians were in the advanced stage building rockets which could target all the cities of Israel.
After World War 2 most of the German scientists had dispersed across the globe or had offered their services to any country willing to pay them. They also wanted out of Germany as the Israelis were hunting for them.
Germans were good at rocket technology which was still at its nascent stage in 1960. Egyptians employed them and gave the German scientists sanctuary in their country. Israelis were truly worried and knew that if the Germans succeeded, they might get wiped out.
They were not willing to go to war with Egypt as they were not yet ready & time was definitely not on their side.
Going back in time during WW2 Colonel Otto Skorzeny was the most daring commando in Nazi Germany’s Wafeen – SS.
He was rated as the most dangerous man in Europe by the Americans & the British intelligence as he was extremely close to Hitler & in charge of the German army commandos.
Israel meanwhile was hunting down all perpetuators of the holocaust and had in fact manage to seize the chief of holocaust Adolf Eichmann from Argentina.
This had also put a fear in all the Germans who were involved in this.
Meanwhile the rocket programme was on schedule and no amount of threats or pressure paid off.
At this time Israel thought of something totally out of the box. They approached Otto Slorzeny & promised him that he will not be targeted by them & also in fact offered to protect him ,if he could help them call back the German scientists back from Egypt. Otto knew all the involved parties and it took him a few months of threats and key scientists disappearances (a story for another day), and soon all German scientists left Egypt, thereby ending its rocket programme and saving the day for Israel. In fact the Israelis kept their word & protected Otto till the end & he died of natural causes.
Now just think of what the Israelis did. They spoke to the Germans to help them out, in spite of what the Germans had put them through. They were smart as they knew war would wipe them out, so they chose a path of which would be most beneficial to their people and opened a channel of communication with their enemy.
The above indeed should be an eye opener for all who do not believe in opening channels of communication with one and all.
Many times an impossible task is achieved by simply talking even with a Devil !!!
Next article I will be talking on “ Achieving the Impossible”